Perfume Tales

The famous Christian Dior once said: “A woman's perfume tells more about her than her handwriting.”  However, with the cosmetic counters crowded with an array of fragrances to choose from, buying the right perfume can at times seem quite confusing and overwhelming.  Here is a brief guide to buying the right perfume.

*  The first essential thing to keep in mind is that a perfume is not just about sweet      

    fragrances and brands. It is a very personalized item. You might like a particular fragrance 

    on another person, but when you spray it on yourself, the smell is quite different. This is

    because acids and natural oils on our skin differ and therefore you need to choose a

    perfume that suits you. 

*  Smell is the main component of a perfume. There are eight traditional classifications of  

    perfumes from flowery scents of the floral to strong herby scents of the fougere that can 

    make buying a perfume quite overwhelming.  Therefore, think about the different smells

    you like. It makes it easier to single out the perfume family you would like to

    explore.

*  When choosing a perfume you need to consider your personality and lifestyle. For instance,

    if you are part of the corporate world, you would consider something light and floral that

    brings sophistication to the boardroom. However, you can choose a stronger oriental scent

    that can be exciting for an evening out. Therefore, before buying a perfume think about

    where you are most likely to wear it.

*  When we think of perfume, age appropriateness is the least of our concerns. However, it is

    one of the most important elements to keep in mind when buying the right fragrance. 

    Oriental and woody fragrances are strong and not appropriate for teenage girls while

    perfumes such as Paris Hilton may not necessarily suit a more mature woman.

*  Buying the right perfume needs patience as each bottle has its own unique smell. So, while it

    can be tempting to pick up the first perfume bottle that has a wonderful fragrance, take

    your time before making a choice.

*  It may be worthwhile to try a sample of a perfume before purchasing it.  When you spray a 

    perfume, wait about 10 minutes for the smell to settle in and decide if you like it.

*  Buy a lighter fragrance to wear during the sweltering heat of the summers as smell is more

    intensified and choose a stronger one for the winters.

*  One of the most common mistakes we make when trying a perfume is to spray more than

    two perfumes on our wrist at one time. The distinct smells get mixed up to leave us

    confused. 

Shopping for the right perfume can be simple and fun with a little patience and clarity. At the end it is an invaluable effort as a perfume is the invisible accessory that adds to a woman’s charm and personality. 

Article written for WomenWish www.womenwish.net

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The Stylish Diva

The word “Diva” is said to have originated in the 19^th century and is a derivation from the Italian word ‘dive’ which literally means Goddess. Therefore, in an age where presentation is everything and making the right style statement never easy, being a style diva is more than just a label. It is an aspiration to be seen as beautiful.  Here are a few tips to help discover the style diva in you:

R     Coco Channel had famously said: “Fashion fades, only style remains.” It is essential to wear what suits you and not simply because it is the fashion of the month or something that looks amazing on the ramp.  For instance a mini dress is not for everyone. If you are shy and conscious the discomfort will be quite evident as you tug the edges or constantly shift in your seat.

R      Wear colors that suit your complexion and reflects your mood and personality. It is not so much about light or dark colours but certain shades bring a glow and youthfulness to your overall appearance. Do not choose colours simply because they happen to be your favourite or look pretty to the eyes.  A good example is the colour peach. It can either give you a romanticized softness or simply look loud.

R     Everyone has a style statement that is unique to them. Try and find your style that not  only looks good on you but is also comfortable. It does not necessarily have to be high on fashion and can even be a jean and top that makes you feel and look beautiful.

R     Accessories are as important as clothes as it adds charm. It is important to accessorize without being over the top. If you are wearing a nice chandelier earring then try and avoid a heavy neck piece. Rings are always stylish and elegant with bracelet and bangles.

R      Shoes complete an overall appearance. Therefore, it must be given as much significance as the outfit and accessories. There are so many designs and colours to choose from that it could seem overwhelming.  However, the first criteria for stylish shoes are comfort followed by colour and style.

R     High heels have a flamboyance and charm that is irresistible to most women as it adds height and confidence. Heels come in many sizes and shapes so you do not necessarily have to choose pencil high when small block heels can look equally pretty.

Style at the end in the end is all about how you define it. Therefore, being a style diva is as much about how you feel inside as you look on the outside.

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Fighting the Love Blues



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Love is a beautiful emotion that brings a sense of happiness and excitement to your life. But sometimes, the magic fades to leave behind pain and anger. You find yourself struggling with memories and sense of emptiness that simply will not leave. It is never easy to deal with the emotional feelings that flow once a relationship has ended. However, here are some ways to cope with it.

z Heartbreak is an emotional turmoil and sometimes just crying out all the pain in your   heart can be healing. Tears have a way to wash away the feelings of anguish and disappointment to create a sense of relief. It allows you to come to terms with the reality of a relationship that has ended. Therefore, do not feel embarrassed to shed a few tears and release your emotions. But at the same time it is important to realize that the end of a relationship does not mean the end of love.

z Talking about your feeling with someone who understands can be comforting. It could be a family member or a friend who can lift your spirits with encouragement and patience as you nurse your broken heart.

z Sometimes we struggle to find the words and put our emotions together. Writing down your thoughts and feelings in a notebook can be calming. It is a way to express all the upheaval you are feeling inside and just letting it out.

z When you are in an unhappy place it is easy to fall deeper into the depth of gloom by finding faults within and blaming yourself. But it is important to snap out of it and accept that sometimes things do not work out and one has to let go and move forward. Surround yourself with positive energy with people and things that make you happy.

z Watching a movie or doing a dinner with family and friends can help you take your mind off the break up. Healing is a process and so while you are bound to be contemplative of the relationship there is also a need to look ahead. 

z Attending a yoga class or a gym can be a great way to release all the pent up stress and keep your body and mind healthy.

z Take a trip to the salon or spa as it can be rejuvenating and energize your mood and self-esteem,

The well-known 17th century French poet Jean de La Fontaine is credited to have famously written “Sadness flies away on the wings of time.” Give yourself the space to let the pain fade away and the chance to seek love again for a broken heart does not last forever.
                                                                                                                        

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When Women Horse Around

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The grayish stone tablet placed on the corner of a Polo ground along the fabled silk route in Gilgit, Pakistan has long epitomized the fascinating game of Polo with a simple inscription: “Let others play at other things. The King of Games is still the Game of Kings.” Patronized by legendary warriors and embraced by kings and nobles for centuries, the fate of Polo has been tied to the cyclic rise and fall of empires. Though the true origins of the game remain a mystery, it is believed to have emerged almost 2500 years ago from modest beginnings in the harsh encampments of nomadic warriors of Central Asia. The sport ever since has stood steadfast through changing time to remain one of the oldest & fastest team sports in the world today. It is also one of the rare sports where both men and women can play on the same team.



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Over the decades the royal courtyards and grandeur has given way to more humble and ordinary fields for modern polo. While the sport has been mainly dominated by men, the last few years has seen a rise in women taking a keener interest in the sport and making their presence felt. The new era of women’s polo is nowhere more clearly mirrored than in the Polo Girls Society founded in 2009 by a talented group of American women committed to promoting the Game of Kings. The society is taking the game beyond the polo fields to bring people together for events that showcase their passion for the sport as well as benefit society through community polo projects.

The life line of Polo Girls Society is its founder TV Producer and Philanthropist Libby Scripps, whose passion for the game has made her a much-admired international polo player and an inspiration for women in polo. Beautiful and self-assured, there is air of enthusiasm as she discusses Polo Girls Society. Reminiscing the time as a young girl, Libby vividly remembers watching with fascination a Maharaja from India playing polo in Palm Beach, Florida. Spellbound by the sheer energy of clashing mallets, the cantor of hooves and exuding aura of grandeur and royalty, she felt it was a game only for kings. That was until Libby was invited to play in a kid’s tournament at the young age of seven. From then on, Polo was not only her game but an integral part of her life.

However, the hardest part of dreaming is to give it wings and turn it into a reality. Libby and the rest of the women at Polo Girls Society embody the idea that dreams are not mere ambitions alone; but also define a person's aspirations to make a difference. The society’s involvement with a number of charities and organizations to promote the sport and giving back to the community has been commendable. Libby recalls an interesting episode when a 12 year old girl won a lesson with the Polo Girls. She came to the barn with little riding experience, got on the pony and started hitting the ball. Just to see the natural talent this little girl had was amazing for the team. But the feeling to know that she would have never had an opportunity to learn polo had it not been for something like the Polo Girls Society only    strengthened their commitment of having such initiatives in place to promote polo.

Though setting up Polo Girls Society was challenging and far from glamorous for Libby personally, she has found it all worthwhile. It has enabled her to inspire and encourage new players and bring in more spectators to the sport. There have also been obstacles and the biggest Libby amusing points out was Ralph Lauren. After all he trademarked the word polo back in the 70’s and everyone thought polo is simply a brand of clothing, not a sport. But it is not the only one, as Libby points out that there remains a big misconception that Polo is only for elites and you need to know how to ride for years. All of which is not true and adds with her infectious wit that white jeans do not make you look fat and when playing polo you do burn the most calories than any other exercise. Although, the game itself has not seen the masses that she was counting on, but at least people now realize polo is a sport and not just a brand. Therefore, the joy for her lies in the recognition the Polo Girls Society has brought to the sport in competitive zones like the US.



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Polo is charming game that moves at a swift pace delicately blending artistry and remarkable horsemanship, testing the bond and endurance of both horse and rider to the ultimate. The rules are fairly simple and it is an exciting sport to watch. Libby advice to young inspiring women polo players is to make safety paramount for themselves, their teammates, and opponents. While excellent sportsmanship and horsemanship is essential to excel, Libby cautions to steer clear from the air of snobbery, instead appreciate and enjoy the game without trying to continuously dominate the ball and never to cross the line. She then adds with a smile that it does not hurt to look great in Mallet Hill threads designed by the Polo Girls.  It is all about passion and respect for  the game that is steeped in rich history.

Presently, Polo Girls Society has a growing membership of 55 members and more than 10, 000 fans.  It is not a total women’s affair though, as men too are welcomed and encouraged to join to show their support for women polo players. Libby hopes that more women will be encouraged to take up the sport by joining the Polo Girls Society and in turn they would be able to generate more sponsors to host more women's tournaments worldwide.

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Margaret Mead once famously wrote "never doubt that a small group of thoughtful, committed, citizens can change the world. Indeed it is the only thing that ever has." Libby Scripps and her team of Polo Girls are not looking to make grand gestures of heroism, simply choosing to make a difference through their passion for Polo. But along the way they have begun to inspire a whole new generation of women polo players making sure to be treated as equals. Enthralling with as much skill, speed and power as men, women are playing hard and are in it to win.  Thus, the legacy of polo lies not in the ancient manuscripts and legends alone but in the devotion of those touched by its mesmerizing aura just like the US based Polo Girls Society.

The Swan Bird

The renowned Danish poet and author Hans Christian Anderson perhaps wrote one of the most beloved fairy tales “The Ugly Duckling” that added to the mythical allure and legend of the swan. The treasured story begins at a barn where a young swan (cygnet) is seen as being ugly amongst the prettier yellow ducklings wandering around. It is ridiculed and bullied as it struggles to find acceptance. In time the duckling grows to become the most beautiful bird, the Swan and find a place amongst its Kin. 

The Swan is counted amongst the largest flying birds reaching a height of almost 60 inches and the biggest of the Anatide family that includes the geese and ducks. There are about 6-7 species with the native North American Tundra Swan and the Trumpeter Swan considered the largest waterfowl species in the world. Both the male and female swans have similar plumage and an absence of feathers in between the eyes and bill, except the adult male is much heavier than the female.  However, given their slender beauty it is hard to believe swans can weigh as much as 15 kgs. The diet of the swan is essentially herbivorous to include aquatic and submerged plants but they are also known to eat smaller aquatic animals. So, unlike most birds, Swans have small jagged teeth used to catch and eat fish.  

Although swans are most likely to be found in temperate climate there are rare instance of them appearing the tropics and are known to be fully or partially migratory in nature. In general the coloring of  swans remain the same with dark greyish black legs, except for the South American Black-necked Swan and the Coscoroba Swan who possess pink legs. 

The Northern Hemisphere swan species epitomizes the popular image of the long necked white plumage bird. But the Swans of the Southern Hemisphere are a stark contrast with a black and white plumage. The Black Swan as the name suggests is fully black with only white feathers on its wings. Although, the most interesting is the Black-necked Swan with a beautiful white plumage body contrasted with black head and neck, a greyish bill with a red bump at the base and a white stripe near the eyes. 

In ancient mythology, the swan symbolized fidelity and devotion. This is because the most interesting aspect of the Swans is their monogamous nature where a pair of swans can be together for years. However, modern science breaks the myth of romanticism about the bonds between swans. For one, they are not immune to divorces and are believed to mate outside their pairing without disturbing it. The female swan gives about 4-7 eggs which need to be in incubation for 34-45 days. But, an unusual trait of the swan is that the male plays an active part in building the nest and also incubating the eggs rather than leaving all the responsibility on the female swan.

For centuries, the mysterious charm of the swan bird has inspired myths and legends. They symbolize a sense of purity and calmness in a turbulent world forever enchanting us with its delicate beauty.

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The Ruins of Golkonda

Hyderabad is a bustling city located in the southern part of India. It is where the echoes of the past still make its presence felt as modern buildings dot the skyline with towering apartment complexes, malls and multiplexes. However, west of Hyderabad approximately 11 km away lies ruins of the ancient city of Golkonda  with stoned walls and impressive citadels. Archaeologists believe that the Kingdom of Golkonda dates as far back as the Chalukya dynasty in 731 AD making it one of the oldest surviving historical sites in Hyderabad.

However, the foundation of the famous Golkonda fort itself was not constructed until the 13th century under the Kakatiya dynasty sometime in 1143. The name ‘Golla conda’ itself which literally means ‘Shephard Hill’ in telugu language with an interesting legend behind it. The story goes that a mud fort was built by the Kakatiya King after an idol was discovered by a shepherd boy.  The Kakatiya dynasty ended with the rise of the Bahmani Sultans. But it was only around the 16th century that Golkonda would rise to prominence as the seat of the Qutb Shahi dynasty until its decline in 1590. During which the simple mud walls would be transformed into a formidable granite fortress.  But then in 1687, the Mughal Emperor Aurangzeb laid seize to the fort for nine months before being able to march through its strong walls.

The beauty of Golkonda lies in its intricate planning and architectural marvel beaming even through its ruins. The Golkonda complex is divided into four well-defined forts with several semicircular bastions along the 10 km outer wall. Some of these bastions still have mounted canons overlooking the landscape that it once protected from invading troops. The ruggedness of the structure is heightened by drawbridges and eight large gateways with sharp iron spikes. A few feet away from the entrance of the gate there are large erected walls that would have acted as a shield in a battle preventing marching elephants and armies to infiltrate the fortress with ease.

The main entrance lies on the Eastern side at Bala Hissar Gate with its intricate ornamentation blending both Hindu – Muslim architecture. The "Fateh Darwaza" (Victory Gate) is where the armies of Emperor Aurangzeb marched triumphantly after the fall of the Shahi dynasty. One of the most interesting aspects of the gate is its finely tuned acoustics. As you clap your hands at the entrance under the dome, the sound echoes roughly a kilometre out at the Bala Hisar gate. But it was an effective warning mechanism used to alert an impending attack.

The austere exterior is further complemented by the more architecturally elaborate royal apartments & halls, tombs of the Qutub Shahi Sultans, gardens, temples and mosques located in and around Golkonda Fort. One such monument is the Toli Masjid built in 1671 built by the royal architect Mir Musa Khan Mahaldar and about 2km away at Karwan. The fort also contained a resourceful water supply system and detailed ventilation adding a unique charm to this historical site.  Also, the diamond mines of Golkonda were as famous as the fort itself with the 185 carats Darya-e Nur diamond (Sea of light), the Hope diamond and Kohinoor once kept in its vault chambers.

Through time, the fort has witnessed the rise and fall of kingdoms and fierce battles across its fields. Once the seat of power, its own fate fallen with the diktats of time. In the remnants of broken walls and desolate silence of history, there is much to discover at Golkonda.

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Stripes of the Desert

The Namib Desert is believed to be one of the oldest and largest deserts in the world, dating back to more than 55 million years. The harsh arid and semi-arid conditions make it a difficult terrain largely inaccessible. However, the Namib Desert is home to a number of wildlife and vegetation unique to the region including the the Mountain Zebra that roams the surroundings of the rugged Naukluft Mountains..

During the summers, the mountain zebra can be seen on the slopes and plateaus of the mountain terrains, but as winter sets in they migrate to the lower areas of the region. There are two sub-species: The Cape Mountain Zebra and Hartmann’s Mountain Zebra. Some researchers argue that both are distinct from the Zebra and therefore should be considered as separate species. However, when one sees the mountain zebra from afar it looks like any zebra with every individual distinct in appearance with noticeable black and white stripes. But on closer observation the subtle differences are evident.

The stripes of the mountain zebra can also be brown and white and does not cover the belly area which remains creamy white. Further, the stripes of the cape mountain zebra are thicker with narrower white interspaces compared to the hartmann’s mountain zebra. As for the height, a typical adult mountain zebra can reach up to 6-8.5 ft weighing between 240-372 kgs and having a lifespan of 25-45 years.  In addition, the mountain zebra has Dewlap, the loose fold of skin below the throat area distinguishing it from the Zebra.

The mountain zebras like the plain zebra do not gather together into herds per se but small family groups of a single stallion (adult male) that is the dominant member, one or several mares (adult females) and young offspring. However, there have been instances of less than 30 mountain zebras coming together to form a temporary herd and bachelor male adults forming separate groups. By the time a mare reaches 3 to 6 years, she would have given birth to her first foal after which till she reaches 24 she would give birth to one foal every 1 to 3 years.

Once found across the mountainous terrains along the west coast of Southern Africa and South Africa, the mountain zebra is now considered vulnerable as it is sought by hunters and their habitats destroyed by human needs. In the 1930’s, there were about 100 mountain zebras reported. But the population has since rise to an estimated 2700 largely due to conservation and protection within National Parks. Also, the collaborative management of zoo population around the world and the European Zoo’s Endangered Species Programme are aiding in the efforts to save this endangered species.

As the Mountain Zebra roams the rocky slopes and plateaus of its remaining mountainous habitat one is reminded of the words written by “Chief Seattle of the Suquamish Indians: “What is a man without the beasts? If all the beasts were gone, men would die form great loneliness of spirit, for whatever happens to the beasts also happens to man.”

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